For Egg Donors, Surrogates & Intended Parents

IVF is a journey filled with emotion, hope, and commitment—for everyone involved. Whether you’re donating, carrying, or hoping to welcome a baby, your well-being matters. These self-care tips are here to support you through each step.

🌼 For Egg Donors:

You’re giving a profound gift. Take care of you, too.

• Rest Often: Hormonal medications can cause fatigue. Listen to your body.

• Stay Hydrated: Water helps reduce bloating and supports hormone balance.

• Eat Nourishing Foods: Lean proteins, leafy greens, and healthy fats support your body during stimulation.

• Use a Journal: Process emotions, reflect on the experience, or write letters to your future self.

• Lean on Support: Talk with someone you trust or join a donor support group.

• Celebrate Yourself: You’re making a life-changing difference. Honor that.

🌸 For Surrogates:

You are doing something extraordinary—physically, emotionally, and spiritually.

• Daily Movement: Gentle walks or stretching can help with circulation and mood.

• Fuel Your Body: Eat balanced meals that support baby and your own strength.

• Mindful Rest: Prioritize sleep and rest without guilt—your body is working overtime.

• Emotional Check-ins: You deserve emotional support just as much as physical care. Therapy, support groups, or simple chats with friends can help.

• Celebrate Your Role: You are a bridge to someone’s dream. That’s sacred.

🌟 For Intended Parents:

This path is full of anticipation, hope, and sometimes heartache. Be kind to yourself.

• Name Your Emotions: It’s okay to feel anxious, hopeful, afraid, or overwhelmed—all at once.

• Practice Mindfulness: Meditation, breathwork, or quiet time can calm spiraling thoughts.

• Stay Connected: Talk with your partner, therapist, or trusted friend. Don’t isolate.

• Prepare Without Pressure: Nesting or planning can be joyful, but let it be flexible.

• Honor the Journey: Write letters to your future child, journal about milestones, or create a scrapbook of your path to parenthood.

• Express Gratitude: Whether toward your surrogate or egg donor—kindness and connection go a long way.

• Celebrate Small Wins: Every step forward is meaningful.

🫶 Universal Tips for All:

• Say No Without Guilt: You don’t owe anyone an explanation.

• Unplug When Needed: IVF journeys can feel overwhelming. Step away from forums or social media if they drain you.

• Create a Ritual: A walk, tea, prayer, playlist—anything that grounds you.

• Affirmations Matter: Try gentle reminders like:

  • “I am doing something meaningful.”

  • “I trust my body and this process.”

  • “It’s okay to rest.”

  • “I am allowed to feel everything.”

💛 No matter your role, you are a vital part of something beautiful. Be gentle with yourself, honor your needs, and know you’re not alone.

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Listen to our podcast episode, “The IVF Marathon: How to Survive the Rollercoaster and Still Succeed” to learn more!