The surrogacy journey is deeply emotional and meaningful for both surrogates and intended parents (IPs). Many surrogates wish to express their appreciation for the intended parents by giving them thoughtful gifts throughout the process. While no gift can truly capture the significance of the journey, small tokens of love and gratitude can help commemorate special milestones and strengthen the bond between surrogates and IPs. Here is a guide to meaningful gifts surrogates can give to their intended parents.
Milestone One: Transfer The embryo transfer is a moment filled with hope and anticipation. A small, sentimental gift can help mark this special occasion:
- Framed ultrasound pictures – A beautiful way to commemorate the beginning of the journey.
- A candle, flower, or symbolic gift – Something to represent hope, such as a “forever rose” to signify the lasting bond and belief in the journey.
- A handwritten letter to the baby – A heartfelt message from the surrogate sharing her thoughts and hopes for the little one.
- A journal of first kicks and pregnancy milestones – A keepsake for the parents to treasure forever.
- Embryo art– Embryology Watercolor Print
Milestone Two: Pregnancy Progression As the pregnancy progresses, many surrogates want to share the experience with the intended parents. Thoughtful gifts can include:
- Handmade or personalized keepsakes – Such as a baby blanket, onesie, or custom artwork.
- Books read by the surrogate’s children – Having the surrogate’s kids record bedtime stories and gifting those books to the IPs at the baby shower, so the baby hears familiar voices when they arrive.
- Encouraging notes and drawings from the surrogate’s children – A personal and heartwarming way to involve the surrogate’s family in the journey.
- Anything “mom” or “dad” related – Mugs, T-shirts, or jewelry affirming their role as parents to help them feel connected.
- Heartbeat Bear– A custom bear with baby’s actual heartbeat, available from Build-A-Bear workshop.
Milestone Three: Delivery and Postpartum The birth of the baby is the most emotional and joyous milestone. Thoughtful gifts for the intended parents at this time include:
- Customized keepsakes – A photo frame engraved with the baby’s birth details, a shadow box, or a scrapbook capturing special moments.
- Hospital care package – Snacks, self-care items, and a thoughtful note to help the IPs through their hospital stay.
- A heartfelt letter – Sharing reflections on the journey and gratitude for being part of their story.
- Matching outfits for baby and parents – A sweet and fun way to celebrate their first moments together.
Special Occasions & Continued Bond Surrogates and intended parents often develop a lasting bond. Here are some ways to keep the connection going:
- First birthdays – Sending a card or a small keepsake on the baby’s first birthday to celebrate their growth.
- Holiday gifts – A meaningful ornament, a festive treat, or a heartfelt holiday card to maintain the connection.
- Mother’s/Father’s Day recognition – A card or small token of appreciation to acknowledge their journey into parenthood.
The surrogacy journey is a partnership built on trust, love, and gratitude. Thoughtful gifts, no matter how small, can serve as lasting reminders of the beautiful experience shared between surrogates and intended parents. As always, our team at Egg Donor & Surrogate Solutions is here to help in any way! Be sure to use the private facebook group to get ideas from your surro-sisters.